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30 Days of Dominance: Day 2

Day 2 – Describe what you are looking for in a submissive and the techniques you might use to instill those characteristics in your submissive. Are you exclusively Dominant in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you Dominant only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you Dominant to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?

When looking for a submissive, I first look for someone who I like as a person. Those are things that you just can’t instill in someone if they’re not already there. I also look for someone who genuinely enjoys pleasing me rather than someone who is looking for someone to fulfill his very specific fantasies. Beyond that, and into the realm of things you can teach, I like someone who’s an excellent masseuse, good at taking pain, allows my cock inside of them, and can assume a meek demeanor. I teach these things with patience by instruction and practice.

I prefer to be dominant not just inside the bedroom, but out as well. However, I’m not super bossy in my day-to-day life with people other than my submissive. I assert myself, but I don’t generally like to dominate people without their consent. However, with my slave I can give him instructions whenever, wherever. I do take his opinions into account, and I often invite them, but I have the final say when I want it. I like it that way.

I am dominant not just with my slave, but also with play partners. Occasionally I bottom to others, but usually just to be tied up or beaten pleasantly. More often than not though, it’s me topping with play partners. I’ve stopped playing in public so much though because it’s started to feel rather performative. Occasionally I’ll meet someone I really want to play with though, and I appreciate the public setting to try things out and get to know each other.

Since I was late this month, and this is a short post, I will leave you with a picture of my slave:Image